Learning The Ropes
The Go F Yourself Basics
The Go F Yourself Basics:
Learning the Ropes
The Go F Yourself Basics will help you to better understand The Crew's foundational concepts of Sex, Health and Pleasure.
Sailor Jerri’s Seven C’s
I believe in the “Seven C’s” Consent, Constructs, Confidence, Communication, Connection, Community, and Credibility. All sex based in Consent is “good sex”. Consent means an enthusiastic, free and informed (including concepts like social Constructs) agreement. Working on personal Confidence can help foster skills in Communication. Humans need Connection in the form of Sex, Love and Intimacy from both romance and Community. Credibility comes from facts not anecdotes. I’m not here for quick answers to complicated subjects, but I do promise to provide you with fact-based sex and health edutainment.
Sailor Jerri's 7 C's
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Sex Positivity promotes and embraces sexuality with few limits beyond an emphasis on safe sex and the importance of consent. Sex positivity is defined as "an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and risk reduction as part of its campaign." The movement generally makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual activities, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.
Risk Reduction vs Safe Sex
I know what you are thinking “Risk reduction? Sailor Jerri that sounds scary!” I know but I don’t believe the term “Safe Sex” is accurate. After all, you could be masturbating at home, slip on some lube, crack your head on the bedside table and LIGHTS OUT!
Risk Reduction is a way of thinking:
1. You address a situation and the potential risks involved
2. Decide what level of risk you are willing to reach in this situation
2. Do what is required to reduce the risk involved to everyone’s acceptable risk level - If that is not possible then the situation is not possible
“Some”, “Many”, “Most”
Many people are concerned if their sex life is “normal” or falls within a “normal” range of behavior and it is important to address these comments or concerns. One person’s personal sexual experience will most likely not apply to everyone else. In fact, there are few things in sex and pleasure that are universal. In-stead health educators rely on 3 magic words: Some, many, and most. When discussing sex and desire, the best way to maintain accuracy is to use these terms: “Some people participate in Kinky sex”. “Many people self-identify as homosexual”. “Most people will masturbate at some point in their lifetime”.
Sex, Love and Intimacy
Sex: The physical Act
Love: Emotional Affection
Intimacy: Support / Community
Humans are social creatures, and even the most introverted of us needs more than one person to fill all the needs in our lives. Human intimate needs are often broken down into: Sex, Love and Intimacy. And I’m here to tell you if you think one person is going to fill all those needs all the time, it is unlikely! Most people gets their needs in these categories met by more than more person. Most people will find that different people fill different needs at different times in their lives.
The PLISSIT Model
The PLISSIT model, also known as the PLISSIT model of sex therapy, is a modeling system used in the field of sexology to determine the different levels of intervention for individual clients. The model was created in 1976 by Jack S. Annon.
PLISSIT stands for: Permission, Limited Information, Specific Suggestions, Intensive Therapy.
Facts vs. Anecdotes
Now more than ever it important to know if what you are reading is fact or opinion. Fake News and “Truthiness” are not confined to Presidential elections. Misinformation is common-place in the world of sex and health. The most important thing to remember that facts are discovered through the scientific process. Someone does research, publishes it in a peer reviewed journal and the conclusions of the study are repeated in multiple testings. Anecdotes are based on one person’s observations of a personal situation. A lot of the time there is not well funded scientific research related to sex and sexuality so many people turn to anecdotes as fact. As admiral Ackbar might say “It’s a trap!”
Intersectional Inclusion
Intersectionality is a term that was coined by American professor Kimberlé Crenshaw in 1989: "The view that women experience oppression in varying configurations and in varying degrees of intensity. Cultural patterns of oppression are not only interrelated, but are bound together and influenced by the intersectional systems of society."
Inclusive language is language that avoids the use of certain expressions or words that might be considered to exclude particular groups of people, esp gender-specific words
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